Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive, controlling behavior that can include physical abuse, emotional or psychological abuse, sexual abuse or financial abuse (using money and financial tools to exert control). There are many types of abuse:  physical, sexual, financial, emotional, and psychological. People who batter have a need to gain and maintain all of the power and control in the relationship.  People who batter come from all walks of life but have common characteristics:

  • Insecure
  • Emotionally dependent
  • Excessively jealous
  • Manipulative
  • Can be very charming and then suddenly angry and violent.

Abusive partners are frequently described as being like “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.”  Abusive behaviors are chosen to maintain power and control.  Abusers will tell their partner that you caused the abuse or that you are “crazy.”  This is not true.  Nobody likes being abused. You are not responsible for someone else’s abusive behavior.  But, it is normal for a victim to describe feeling crazy because abuse is a “crazy” situation.